Everyone experiences periods of stress, sadness, and loss. Successfully navigating those seasons in life is challenging enough, but what if you are not successful in working through negative or even positive life events? You might find the quality of your mental health compromised.
Counseling can be a potent tool for resolving many life transitions, but you shouldn’t see your shrink for every little problem life throws your way either. You don’t have to be “crazy” or on the verge of a nervous breakdown to go to therapy. So how do you know when it’s time to call a professional? How bad do things need to get before you seek help? When you’re dealing with debilitating depression or you get stuck in the grief cycle, the signs might be obvious, but other times might not be so cut and dry, so you shuffle through life until things become unbearable.
Most people don’t go to counseling until things reach the “unbearable” point, prolonging their misery and angst. The obvious truth here however, is the sooner you seek help, the quicker you will be on the road to recovery and feeling better. In fact, it might make the problem worse by avoiding professional help so, before things get to the point of being unmanageable, here are six reasons to seek counseling now:
1. The problem is causing significant distress
Intense emotions such as explosive anger, overwhelming sadness, fluctuating moods, complicated grief, or anxiety that impairs your ability to function may be signs that counseling is needed. If you are having thoughts of suicide, thoughts of harming someone else or if you are participating in self-injurious behaviors (i.e., cutting, burning, or choking), seek help from a professional immediately. Disturbances in your normal sleep patterns such as sleeping too much, trouble falling or staying asleep, withdrawing from family and friends, and appetite changes, can also be telling signs that it’s time to talk with someone. Therapy can also help with strained relationships and marital conflict.
2. You’re self-medicating to cope
It is easier to numb the pain by self-medicating than to deal with the issues that are causing the problems in the first place. However, not dealing effectively with your problems creates new ones and makes a bad situation worse. If you are self-medicating with alcohol, drugs, sex, shopping, or food [to name a few] and you need one of these substances to get through the day to deal with life stressors, it is a sign that you are trying to numb feelings that need to be addressed in counseling.
3. Something traumatic has happened
If you have a history of sexual trauma, emotional, physical, or spiritual abuse, neglect or some other traumatic event that you have not fully dealt with, counseling could be a powerful tool in bringing necessary healing.
4. You’re stuck in the grieving process
If you find yourself stuck in the grieving process and you’re unable to move forward, you might find therapy helpful. Grief can become complicated and doesn’t always resolve on its own. Some people respond to grief by withdrawing from family, friends, and activities while others over engage and throw themselves into serial relationships. Counseling can be effective in working through the grieving process and help you to unpack suppressed emotions.
5. You no longer participate in activities or with friends
You avoid the things that used to bring enjoyment, including family and friends. Perhaps you feel you’ve lost direction or no longer find purpose or meaning in activities that you once could not live without. Many people pull back in seasons of painful emotions. This could be a sign that something isn’t right. Seeing a counselor might help bring clarity or assist you with a new start.
6. There’s no medical cause for your physical symptoms
Mood disturbances can cause a host of bodily aches and pains such as recurrent headaches, neck and muscle pain, gastrointestinal problems, general fatigue, frequent colds, and a diminished sex drive. If your doctor has been unable to find a cause for your physical symptoms, it might be time to call a counselor. It just makes sense that when we are emotionally sick, our bodies are negatively affected.
Talking about your thoughts and feelings with an empathic, supportive person can not only help you feel better, but it can also be life changing by bringing about the emotional healing you desperately need. Therapy can provide you with the tools for transformation. You can learn new coping skills, improve relationships, and build the life you’ve always envisioned for yourself. What are you waiting for? Let’s get started!
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